Overcoming Perfection

Me: Writes post about overcoming perfectionism, starts by changing the title ten times in a row. I have perfectionist tendencies. For me, perfectionism means scrutinizing everything I do, say, and think, and rarely measuring up to my own standards. I think in black and white terms: good or bad, smart or stupid, perfect or unacceptable.…

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I’m Scared to Try

I’m scared to put myself out there. I’m scared to finish my book and release it. I’m scared to post regularly on social media. I’m scared to be noticed. But above all, I’m scared to not be noticed. After months of putting it off, I finally started an Instagram (@kirajcole) to accompany this blog. Part…

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Should You Start a Blog?

Over-saturated. You’ve heard it a million times about a million things. I’ma tell you a secret: nothing is really over-saturated. No market, no area of expertise. What people really mean when they say that, probably without realizing it, is there is an overabundance of average-ness in a particular space. It’s not about what you do,…

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Blog Posts that Inspired Me Today

I didn’t want to just let these get buried in my bookmarks list, so I’m dropping them in this post for safe keeping. How to be a Boss at Blogging When You Have 0 Followers – The Art of Blogging Why Won’t You Just Write What You Want to Write? – Novelty Revisions

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How to Silence your Inner Critic

This past week I heard (or read, I can’t remember) the phrase: “Get out of your head and into your body.” It was in reference to creative work. This inspired a light bulb moment. I know that once I start my creative work, and I’ve been at it for a few minutes, my relentless inner…

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Adult Goals, Childlike Expectations

Whenever I had free time as a kid, which was often, I would craft or play music or write something. All that play is the foundation of the creative skills I have now. I have a burning desire to create everyday, although judging by how often I do it you wouldn’t think so. When I…

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Getting to the Good Part

I love painting. I hate drawing. In addition to writing, making art is a calling of mine. This means I can’t stop doing it, even though I go through phases of thinking I’m horrible at it. I took most of the art classes offered at my high school, I went to art college for a…

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Rejection Part 3: Actually Getting Over It

I wrote about rejection (twice) as if I dealt with it well. I didn’t. My self-esteem has been in the absolute toilet since July. I sat down and wrote for my book for the first time in a long time on Thursday. My thoughts were bleak as I began to type: This is stupid, terrible…

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I Don’t Want To

I’ve been confronting my laziness. Every time I find a shred of motivation, I tell myself: “I don’t feel like it yet.” “I’ve been having a hard time, I deserve a break.” It’s easy to give in to my impulse to take a break, to rest, but it never feels right. It never feels like…

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The Subtly of Progress

I’m impatient. You’re impatient. We want to start doing something and immediately have it be the best thing that’s ever been done, no matter how firmly the logical parts of our brains tell us that isn’t going to happen. I looked up one day and I had written 20 blog posts. I looked up one…

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